Saturday 31 December 2011

What Are You Doing New Year's Eve?


How are you spending this special evening?

For the longest time I dreaded the pressure of this evening. New Year's Eve seemed like a big to-do, which often ended in disappointment. Over the past few years, however, I began to love it again by spending quiet evenings with people I cared about.

This week I spent a lot of time with some dear friends and family, a perfect end to 2011. Tonight, Alex and I are having a quiet evening in. Given our track records, perhaps neither will make it to midnight. So, last night, a friend of mine suggested celebrating New Year's on St. John's time. (This would be at 10:30 pm.) Given that Alex is part Newfoundlander, it seems appropriate.

Check out this gallery of vintage New Year's party photographs from Life Magazine:




Also, a great new version of the classic song What Are You Doing New Year's Eve?

Plus, a new song by one of my favourite artists.


Friday 30 December 2011

Androgynous Chic

Sometimes, I just love to dress like a dude. I decided to go formal last night and wear a tie to dinner.


Last winter I really got into the androgynous chic look. It's so much fun to bend gender fashion boundaries. There is something so sensual and powerful about wearing a man's silk tie against your skin.

More recently I found this great blog Tomboy Style which describes the style so perfectly: "(...) although the tomboy is often identified by clothing, what makes her wholly so is an inherent sense of confidence, rebelliousness, and adventure".


Monday 26 December 2011

A Christmas Story


We celebrated Christmas Day at my aunt's this year. Alex made a gingerbread house, helped everyone open presents, and ate lots of goodies. It was very cozy and laid back. (Nobody got upset when Al grabbed the drumstick from the main turkey platter, took a bite, and set it back.)





A lovely house. Check out these gingerbread masterpieces in New York City.



Helping her auntie open a present. (They're knives, hence the concerned look.)


We are who we are.


I love my sister's creative flair...


...and her sense of humour.


It looks as though I'm being seductive, but I'm just sleepy. (A frequent mistake, which is usually followed with an awkward conversation.)


Some of us fizzled out. 


Not this one....


...and never this one.

Thursday 22 December 2011

Visit!

We've had lovely visitors from Halifax, Nova Scotia all week. Here are some pictures of Alex and her beautiful Auntie at a restaurant in the Junction.



Wednesday 21 December 2011

The Longest Night


I wish everyone is having a cozy winter solstice. There is so much fascinating history and culture surrounding this day. In a sense doesn't it all seem a little romantic? It seems like the perfect evening to cuddle under a warm blanket with a glass of red wine, a book, and someone you love. Or to just catch up on some much needed sleep.

Have a good, long night. 

















Monday 19 December 2011

Wednesday 14 December 2011

Office Gifting: Do or Don't?



Since I have a slight obsession with etiquette, and since it’s the holiday season, I’m bringing up gift giving etiquette for the office place. Should you give your colleagues gifts? That could certainly get pricey. It could also get selective. What if you're closer with some than others? Could that be awkward? Do you get your boss something?

Are you stressed out yet?

Here are a few pointers:
  • It’s better to under spend than over. Especially when it comes to the boss. A gift could be easily misread. It could also be awkward for an unprepared recipient to receive some extravagant.
  • Have a stash of small gifts and/or cards in your desk drawer, just so you’re not caught off guard by a generous office elf. A coffee gift card is always an acceptable.
  • If your team is closer, perhaps an organized Secret Santa or gift exchange could alleviate some of the pressure. (Just as long as everyone’s on board and make sure that people can opt out if they want.)
  • It is okay to gift someone who doesn’t observe Christmas. Just skip all the Christmas paper.
Here are a few articles that will help out as well:

From Quint Careers: Office Gifts Dos and Don'ts

Ladies Home Journal: Office Gift Giving Etiquette

Wise Geek: What Should I Consider When Giving Gifts at Work

Tuesday 13 December 2011

OMG Check out THIS Tannenbaum

A colleague of mine posted this on Facebook this morning. Just to get me excited. I had to share it with you. A Christmas tree made out of books!

Book tree via Morning of the Magicians.

Sunday 11 December 2011

O Tannenbaum

It feels a little bit more like Christmas now that the tree is up. We went Thursday night to pick out a real tree. While Alex opted to watch Beauty and the Beast, while the tree was going up, she did help out a bit with the decorations.




Decorating the tree can be so nostalgic. I am always excited to open my box of ornaments that I've collected over the years.  Every year my grandparents, hand made a wooden ornament for my sister and me. The clock just right of Alex's head in the first picture is my first ornament, from Christmas 1981.

Tuesday 6 December 2011

Music and Lyrics

I found this on There's Hope For All of Us. It drew me in because I recently had this conversation with someone, about how I was a lyrics person and how they were a music person. A music person can just  catch a good rhythm and away they go, lost in the moment. The lyrics people need more. They need to know the meaning.

Which one are you?

 

Monday 28 November 2011

Holiday Party Series: Mingling

Holiday parties used to cause me severe anxiety issues. Especially those parties that involved meeting a lot of new people. I was so worried about saying the right thing, that sometimes I would just not say anything at all. It was very intimidating, as a new professional, to approach a group of strangers.

Through time and practice, however, it got much better. Looking back now I wonder why I thought those nice people were so scary and judgemental.

Here are a few tips I've collected over the years that will hopefully help you out.

Most people are friendly, so don't be nervous about approaching a circle and joining the conversation. If there's a quiet moment, when you're not interuppting someone, quickly introduce yourself and what you do. If there's a bit of awkward silence at the beginning, don't let it turn you off, it's probably just the cocktails kicking in.

People love to talk about themselves. Keep asking questions. Compliment them. (I like to remind myself of this whenever I do feel nervous about saying the right thing.) If you keep the other person talking, they'll leave that evening thinking that you were an amazing conversationalist.

Don't glue yourself to your best friend all night. We accomplish much more, and we're much happier in the long run, if we let ourselves step outside our comfort zone. Plus, you'll have something to chat about with your friend at your personal after-party.

I love this tip the most: pretend that this is your own party and that you are the host/hostess. Make believe that it's your job to work the entire room and make sure that everyone is enjoying him/herself.

Finally, remember to smile and act genuine. You'll be great!

Don't these people look like they're having fun?



Photos from Gowns.

Triumphant Return

I was down for the count for about a week there. It was seriously the most sick I remember being. But I'm back...

Image from A Quirky Girl.

Tuesday 22 November 2011

Public Transit

Just after daylight savings time I decided it was just too dark to be taking Alex home on the bike. (Such a shame too because we had some wonderful November weather.)

While the bicycle kept me liberated and fit, it was like an extra workout during the day, the subway lets me catch up on some quiet reading time. Plus, I can give Alex kisses when she's on my lap before I drop her off at daycare!



Images from We Heart it.

Plus, check this cute blog: Asleep on the Subway

However, if I marry rich, we're getting this and the whole family can be self-sustaining all year round!

Monday 21 November 2011

Holiday Party Series: What to Wear

Love them or loathe them, the holiday parties are just around the corner. (That corner that's now decked out with bows of holly.)

Last year I wrote an article about how to thrive, or at least survive, at the corporate holiday party. I would like to continue this tradition of reassuring my friends and colleagues that this can actually be an enjoyable experience.

What to wear to a holiday party can be, depending on the person, the easiest or most horrific part of the event.

Is your party a formal dinner? Or is it a cocktail party? There are some ideas be great. I really love the understated sexiness of the dresses. While the suits would be great for some power networking. If you're not sure of which option to choose - dressy or conservative - ask around first.




Top three from J Crew. Bottom two from Banana Republic.

Remember, style and fashion are two very different things. You don't need to go out an get an entirely new - not to mention expensive - outfit. Experiment with things you have and you'll find something classic and elegant on you. (There's also no shame in borrowing from a friend who is the same size as you.)

Also, I haven't forgotten the dudes. While I may not be an expert on how a gentleman should dress - I think you guys look great in anything - there are lots of resources out there. The Globe and Mail's Russell Smith usually has amazing advice on style, including this piece on 'black tie optional' events.

Finally, this goes for everyone, try to make sure that you're comfortable in whatever you're wearing. It would be a shame to miss out on some dancing if your shoes are uncomfortable or your dress is too tight. Also, you want to feel good about what you're wearing. Make sure it's you. There is nothing worse than being self conscious while you're trying to enjoy some well deserved party time.

Saturday 19 November 2011

A Balancing Act, Not a Battle: Children's Book and Children's iPads

This morning I read an article in the Globe and Mail on the evolving relationship children have with digital readers, such as iPads. A similar article was published in the New York Times about how screen time for children was at an all time high. Both pieces address the issue of interactive screens replacing the traditionally published monograph.

Of course these articles are at the nexus of an ongoing discussion among educators, librarians, publishers, venture capitalists, and parents alike. A discussion that seems to be accompanied with some alarmism among some of these groups. To all those alarmists: lets take a deep cleansing breath.

First, we must take any headline that "such-and-such is at an all time high" with a grain of salt. My issue with statistics in general is that there are so many variables to consider. Screen time is at an all time high. Of course it is. We have never been so technologically advanced as a species as we are now. There have never been so many of us as there is now. In addition to this, technology has never been as affordable or as accessible as it is now. It is highly probably that most households, almost regardless of education level or socio-economic status, will have a computer.

I also believe this is a good thing.

I do believe it's positive for parents to responsibly expose their children to technology. (This doesn't mean using a screen as a baby sitter for three hours.) It is, however, imperative that we teach our children the skills of technology at a young age. Digital literacy is an important to their education as literacy has been, and still is, to previous generations.

This being said, balance is also imperative. Parents are also responsible for not raising a generation of inactive children in a semi-vegitative state. In Sherri Turkles' Alone Together, she takes an educated and responsible look at the social and psychological dangers of immersing oneself too much in technology. On a inter-personal level, we are at risk do miss out on levels of intimacy in our relationships. On a psychological level, we have become more distracted and unable to concentrate thanks to our shiny new digital toys.

I am optimistic and hope that I will continue the balance I've found at home. Alex will become fast friends with anyone who totes around a touch screen. However, we visit our public library at least three times a week and she brings me books, one after another, to read over and over again. She is also prone to keeping me up until an ungodly hour reading Melanie Watt's Chester ad naseum.

The Globe's headline said: "for some kids a book is just an iPod that doesn't work". I think, however, with proper balance, we can keep it at just some. 





Friday 18 November 2011

Crazy Cat People

My last post, on Haiku for the Single Girl, reminded me of this Mean Card.

Please note: I mean no offense to my cat owning friends. You are lovely and normal people. (Well, lovely people anyway.)

The inside of the card reads: "note the difference".

In high school one of my best friends, Pam, and I would discuss becoming crazy cat ladies one day. Pam, however, being a true individual, planned on becoming the "crazy bird lady". (Because anybody could be a cat lady.)

P.S. Pam married the poster boy for doting husbands in 2008. They welcomed their first baby girl into the world in September 2011. (She has not yet bought a bird.)

Wednesday 16 November 2011

Haiku for the Single Girl


“I’m sorry Laura,” my colleague sympathizes with me after I finish confiding in her about some romantic woes. It is 8pm on my evening without my daughter and I am, as usual, just hanging around the office. If this isn’t bad enough to begin with, she leans forward, lowers her voice, and says, “you’re going to have to Internet date.” So this is what it’s come to? Internet dating will be added to the certainties of death and taxes?

Now don’t get wrong. I love my crazy little life. I am fully complete without a better half. I would also be perfectly content if I stayed away from the dating game for good. But, every now and then – especially around holidays or whenever I see a Norman Rockwell painting – I tend to feel as though something maybe missing.

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